Creating Mythology via Blogging
This was created specifically in response to a lot of blogs I’ve been reading on myspace, but I figured I’d put it out here as well just to see what you all think about blogging in an open forum with the intention of dating by creating a false vision of oneself. This applies to myspace, Live Journal, MSN Spaces, all of them. Thoughts?
So here I was perusing profiles, as I am wont to do when I am horrifically bored, and I click through a few that may be of interest, or at the very least provide for good blogging fodder. As always, I am not let down. As I see a trend beginning to form, I narrow my search to a specific group of people. No, I won’t tell you what those parameters were, don’t ask. The lovely Goddess knows what got this all started, I’m sure. I’m also sure she’s not telling the likes of you.
I have rambled about profiles before but today I’m rambling about blogs. Now, I realize that my blog is not a mainstream high powered feminist blog. It’s a chick blog. And that’s okay with me, because that’s exactly what it is supposed to be. It’s about me, my life, my thoughts, my feelings, and my dealings with the world. It’s me. And I’ll get back to that in a bit.
As I’m looking through blogs, and yes, I stumbled upon some that are written by people I know, I’m almost stunned at the amount of disingenuous nonsense I’m reading. Hello? Why on earth would anyone do that?
Okay so we are here to meet new people, score a date, maybe even find love. Okay, cool, I’m getting that. But why on earth would anyone waste their time typing up blog entries about the type of person they are that is simply not true?
Is it possible that they think this is the way to find love? Oh my. Come here children, let Mistress Sabre impart some wisdom upon your fool asses. If you are just looking to score some easy action, rock on with your bad selves. Tell fantastical stories about the goodness of your soul and kindness of your nature. Ramble on about finding beauty in streams and rivers. Talk about your inner strength and independence as if the world relied upon it. Reinvent yourself as many times as it takes. Knock yourself out.
But…
If you are seeking something else, and I see that a lot of people are, then maybe the trick is to stop spending so much time trying to convince everyone how wonderful and noble and awesome you are, and start spending more time being real. Because here’s the trap you are getting ready to stumble right on into: after dating your new found someone for a couple of weeks, a couple of months, hell it may take a couple of years for the slower natured of us, your true self is going to come out. And that is not to say that there is anything wrong with your true self, it’s probably a fantastic self. But it’s not the person you advertised.
Life is too short to spend time dinking around trying to find companionship based upon the mythology you have created about yourself. Be real, be honest, be yourself.
“Sabre,” I hear you saying, “What on earth makes you such an expert at this? What gives you the right to pass judgment?”
Ah, what gives me the right? It’s my blog. I talk about what I want. Deal widdit. What makes me an expert? Let’s just say that I have been suckered by false advertising a time or two in my life. I’m pretty sure we all have, and we probably all resent the hell out of it.
My blog, hell my profile, it’s raw and unfiltered, uninhibited pure Sabre. I swear just as much in real life, although at work I’m more prone to break out with “oh eff that effing crap” than what I’d say during the rest of the day, but you know, that’s work. I spill my emotions out here like it’s group therapy. Some of you have laughed with me, cried with me, shared victories and disappointments with me, and cheered me on as I have struggled to get from one impossible day to the next. I bitch here, rag here, cry here, laugh here. It’s all right here for you to see.
Why? Why stick all of that out there for people to see? For potential dates to see?
Because it is who I am.
Life is just too damn short. I have learned one thing in all of my trials and tribulations in the land of love everlasting: it takes a very strong person to be with me for an extended period of time. I’m not a bad person, I’m not even all that weird or strange. I don’t have a large ego, but I do have a personality the size of Texas. Several of them. And there are times when I completely take over the room. There are times when who I am will oversize everything else around me. I don’t mean for it to happen, it just does. So why try to fancy it up? This is me, kids. And I’m pretty sure I can get some of my good friends, and hell maybe even an ex or two, to vouch for that little factoid.
Be yourself, be real, be raw. And let the door to possibilities open up and bring you what you are searching for. All you will get from the mythology of a trumped up profile and blog that doesn’t even begin to reflect the true you is a false and trumped up plastic partner. Is that what you really want?
How are you blogging? Is it real, is it you? I know several of you who bleed on the screen as much as I do, and I value you more than you will ever know. Do you have people in your circle who blog under an illusion of superiority, with enough falseness to make you want to rip their masks off in public? When you meet new people from online, are you upset when they turn out to be the polar opposite of the person you thought you were meeting? Or are those of us who are real out here on Teh Internets completely deluded in thinking our reality is what keeps you coming back time and time again?
Discuss.