Comments on: An Open Letter to My Friends and Family http://www.sabreland.com/2009/10/an-open-letter-to-my-friends-and-family/ Just another WordPress weblog Sat, 11 Feb 2012 02:12:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Sabre http://www.sabreland.com/2009/10/an-open-letter-to-my-friends-and-family/comment-page-1/#comment-1002 Sabre Sat, 10 Oct 2009 04:51:11 +0000 http://www.sabreland.com/?p=1144#comment-1002 It's amazing the things we learn when our wings are temporarily taken away, isn't it? Learning to lean on others has been the hardest lesson of all. In time the scars will fade, but the memory will remain. And hopefully the lessons. I hope to come through this with a better acceptance of my own imperfections and an understanding that sometimes it takes more strength to ask for help than to refuse it. It’s amazing the things we learn when our wings are temporarily taken away, isn’t it? Learning to lean on others has been the hardest lesson of all. In time the scars will fade, but the memory will remain. And hopefully the lessons. I hope to come through this with a better acceptance of my own imperfections and an understanding that sometimes it takes more strength to ask for help than to refuse it.

]]> By: Dave http://www.sabreland.com/2009/10/an-open-letter-to-my-friends-and-family/comment-page-1/#comment-1001 Dave Sat, 10 Oct 2009 04:21:14 +0000 http://www.sabreland.com/?p=1144#comment-1001 I am very independent at heart as well. About two years ago, an eye disease took that away from me. For the first 3 months, I was unable to look at any kind of light source. Even the light source of a television from across the room was extremely painful. Plus, I lost my ability to focus at the time. For nearly a year after, I was unable to drive and to this day, there are days where I know if I spend more than 15 minutes outside when it's bright and sunny, the next day I will have serious repercussions to deal with. For me, that was a major blow, not only because I am a programmer, but only 2 weeks before the whole ordeal started, I left my job to start my own company. It was the first time ever in my life that I had to accept that not only did I need help, but I was at the mercy of others. It also made me stop and rethink everything. At some point in my life, I may go blind. At some point in my life, the disease will begin to affect other organs in my body. What will I do for work? My career would be over, I wouldn't even be able to telecommute. I had to rethink everything. I am in a better spot that I was 2 years ago. I still have really bad days where my eyes need to be kept dilated to ease the pain, but it's something that I will need to deal with the rest of my life. It's something that won't let me forget and has "opened my eyes" (pun intended) to a lot of things in life. In some ways, I think most people at some point goes through something like this. Something that makes them put everything in perspective that has real consequences that will never go away. Something that cannot be taken back. A scar on your psyche that if you learn to live with can help you grow in more ways that anyone could have imagined. A scar physically as a reminder so you will never forget. P.S. Why is it that the year I decide to get my motorcycle license, I have two of my friends get into serious accidents. I am very independent at heart as well. About two years ago, an eye disease took that away from me. For the first 3 months, I was unable to look at any kind of light source. Even the light source of a television from across the room was extremely painful. Plus, I lost my ability to focus at the time. For nearly a year after, I was unable to drive and to this day, there are days where I know if I spend more than 15 minutes outside when it’s bright and sunny, the next day I will have serious repercussions to deal with.

For me, that was a major blow, not only because I am a programmer, but only 2 weeks before the whole ordeal started, I left my job to start my own company. It was the first time ever in my life that I had to accept that not only did I need help, but I was at the mercy of others. It also made me stop and rethink everything. At some point in my life, I may go blind. At some point in my life, the disease will begin to affect other organs in my body. What will I do for work? My career would be over, I wouldn’t even be able to telecommute. I had to rethink everything.

I am in a better spot that I was 2 years ago. I still have really bad days where my eyes need to be kept dilated to ease the pain, but it’s something that I will need to deal with the rest of my life. It’s something that won’t let me forget and has “opened my eyes” (pun intended) to a lot of things in life.

In some ways, I think most people at some point goes through something like this. Something that makes them put everything in perspective that has real consequences that will never go away. Something that cannot be taken back. A scar on your psyche that if you learn to live with can help you grow in more ways that anyone could have imagined. A scar physically as a reminder so you will never forget.

P.S. Why is it that the year I decide to get my motorcycle license, I have two of my friends get into serious accidents.

]]> By: JK http://www.sabreland.com/2009/10/an-open-letter-to-my-friends-and-family/comment-page-1/#comment-1000 JK Sat, 10 Oct 2009 04:15:07 +0000 http://www.sabreland.com/?p=1144#comment-1000 Sweet! You're welcome, Sabre, and THANK YOU for being as patient as you could while I did the right thing. Yes, definitely moving forward, and (of course!) remaining friends through a very tough *ahem* ride ;) It's certainly changed my life, too. In a good way :) Glad we both made it through to see more pub quiz nights! :D The Dude Sweet! You’re welcome, Sabre, and THANK YOU for being as patient as you could while I did the right thing. Yes, definitely moving forward, and (of course!) remaining friends through a very tough *ahem* ride ;) It’s certainly changed my life, too. In a good way :) Glad we both made it through to see more pub quiz nights! :D

The Dude

]]> By: Sabre http://www.sabreland.com/2009/10/an-open-letter-to-my-friends-and-family/comment-page-1/#comment-999 Sabre Sat, 10 Oct 2009 03:14:46 +0000 http://www.sabreland.com/?p=1144#comment-999 Really?!?! I'm so excited, I can hardly contain myself! Really?!?! I’m so excited, I can hardly contain myself!

]]> By: ~k http://www.sabreland.com/2009/10/an-open-letter-to-my-friends-and-family/comment-page-1/#comment-998 ~k Sat, 10 Oct 2009 01:11:32 +0000 http://www.sabreland.com/?p=1144#comment-998 I have a hug for you, I'm gonna deliver it in person, soon :) I have a hug for you, I’m gonna deliver it in person, soon :)

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